How To Recognize If He's / She's The One For You?

Ohh, it's a pretty interesting question, right? Since it's the love month, I think this topic really suits very well in my opinion. Don't get me wrong. I don't mean to be a love guru or something. These categories serve as guides to choose carefully and know if the person beside you right now fits to be your partner forever. Don't worry much because love comes in all forms and angles. Let's continue this and count the ways.

How To Recognize If He's / She's The One?

1. Lifestyle

This is basically a good factor if you are planning to marry soon or still looking for a stable partner. Why? Lifestyle basically means hobbies, preferences, opinions and your principles in life. Do you have something in common? We all know that life is a rat race and it's either you win or lose the game. If you believe you complement each other then it's a good sign. After all, if you and your partner are running at the same pace in a marathon game called life then it should be alright. 

2. Mentality

This is also very essential. Sometimes our ego and selfishness are always our enemies. Why? People just sometimes are blinded if they let these 2 rule in some circumstances. It also doesn't mean that by having a different kind of mentality will not work out well anymore. As people having their own special characteristics, it's always common to have differences whether we like it or not. The key? It's the willingness to accept and compromise at the same time. Many people say it takes two to tango so that principle can be applied here as well. By listening and having an open mind will be helpful to understand constructive criticisms and use them for your betterment as a couple.

3. Anger Management

This is so relatable! It's already our innate personality. The most important factor in all sorts of relationships. This anger management will either break or make the bond stronger. In our case, acceptance is the key and willingness to change for the better. I tell you we are like water and fire literally.  How I deal with it? I just tell him to let me express my bad emotions and just not listen at all. Then after a few minutes, we talk about it. That way, a fierce lady who is willing to eat  a person alive will be pacified somehow with silence. I also remind my partner to touch my forehead and tap my shoulders if I am transforming into this beast mode. Haha. Trust me, it works well.  He helps me and I help him too by not giving him that pressure. What do you think?

4. Goals and Dreams

Oh, this is also very significant. Your future together depends on it as well. What do you imagine of yourselves 5 - 10 years from now? It is pretty normal if you have different goals in life as long as you align these goals to complement each other and at the same time you are moving towards the same direction. I mean it's always fun and exciting to build and create dreams together. It just makes the relationship more exciting too. Dream big and aim higher.

5. Decision-making skills

This is absolutely IMPORTANT. It's basically the core of your relationship. Understanding how your partner deals with life is quite  tough and challenging sometimes.  If you resemble and mirror each other when it comes to problem-solving, then life gets much more easier and more beautiful. If you don't, fret not. These differences will actually motivate you to support you partner's strengths and bridge the gap when necessary. A relationship always gets stronger if two souls are willing to face the music and dance to the tune together.  

That's it for now. Enjoy your search to find true love. Once you find that person, hold on to it and make it worth the ride. 

---Belle